Un-boulder Yourself: dropping excuses and getting motivated

boulder-2A friend recently said to me that the real reason I’m not dedicated to achieving my goals as a writer is because it’s not that important to me. To prove the point, he asked me if 2 million dollars were the recompense for finally writing the book, would I do it then? The answer was DUH!! If 2 million dollars were waiting for me at the end of that fabulous book I’ve always dreamed about publishing, I would write non-stop day and night until it was finished.

He then told me, if the dream is really important to you it should never be motivated by the prospects of money alone, you need to find a bigger reason, a bigger motive. In the face of all the challenges that writing a book entails, or realizing any other dream for that matter, eventually that motivation would soon wane because money is not enough, never was never will be.

So if not money, what then? How do we get motivated, where do we find the inspiration to pursue our dreams?

At times I think, maybe if I had some assurance that I could be successful at doing this, that I could actually make a living from writing, that people would love my books, and I would be instantly published— then perhaps I could quit my job and dedicate myself 100% to writing with utmost dedication and motivation.

But life doesn’t work this way, there is no guaranteed success, no big, bright sign from up above. There is only a dream, faith, and courage. If we waited for assurance, we would never get started because let’s face it, that’s not coming anytime soon, not from out there and probably not even from within.

You would think even if no one else was rooting for us, we’d at least be able to root for own selves, sadly that is hardly ever the case. Often, we are our own dream squashers. In my case, every time I start thinking about pursuing my dreams, this little voice comes on and it says,

Do you know how many people actually make it in this field?! Anddddd, those that made it are way, way better than you are!  You don’t have what it takes to write a great book people will want to read. Your life is so boring, what can you possibly have to say that will matter to people. You don’t have the hustle it takes in you. You will need to be confident and daring to get out there and make your voice be heard. You have to be willing to take a million rejections and criticisms, you’re too soft for that! 

And on and on it goes, telling me all the things I can and cannot do. No wonder I can’t get myself motivated enough to move forward with realizing my dreams! I’ve got a permanent naysayer sitting on my left shoulder, whispering all kinds of depressing thoughts into my ear, feeding my fears and making them grow.

We all have an inner naysayer and if we keep listening to it, we’ll soon decide that instead of shooting for those dreams that are bound to make us feel like we are not good enough, strong enough, or creative enough, it’s best to give up.

The decision is not one we make consciously. No, we never dare admit to ourselves that the real reason we fail is because we keep getting in our own way. Instead, we find all kinds of excuses and distractions to legitimize our failure.

We make sure that our heads won’t go drifting up into the clouds again by tying ourselves down to the biggest rock we can find along our path and we make sure that knot is nice and tight. The rock may be a job that robs of our time, a toxic relationship that always has us feeling down, self-imposed obligations, or meaningless chores like laundry and grocery shopping. Whatever the excuse may be, it always feels oh so valid and hefty.

free-your-dreamsEvery day that goes by without us taking actions toward realizing our dream, blurs it into a forgotten memory. All of life starts to feel like an endless cycle of dreaming and forgetting. The tiny spark that was waiting to be fanned to a roaring flame suffocates slowly to its death.

So how do we get motivated, where do we find the inspiration to keep moving forward towards realizing our dreams?

We find it in realizing how dim life will be if we don’t pursue our dreams. We overcome the naysayer and drop our excuses because we realize that a life is not worth living unless you dream and you possess the burning desire to make those dreams come true.

For many people, the realization comes at the end of their lives, when it’s too late to do anything but regret. So realize now, while we still have time to act, breath left in us to reignite the flame, and strength to lift the weight of those boulder-sized excuses off our dreams.

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Author:raimyd

My name is Raimy, I’m a soul-searching writer and amateur photographer. Creative-guru is a by-product of a deep creative passion for personal and spiritual growth.

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2 Comments on “Un-boulder Yourself: dropping excuses and getting motivated”

  1. February 14, 2017 at 10:40 am #

    Thank you Raimy for this post. I have been weighed down as well by so many obligations, especially being a single mom of two teenagers who are both off to college in a year or two. I dream of the freedom and I fear it as well. What I need to do is to focus on doing things now. Thanks for reminding me of this fact.

    • February 16, 2017 at 1:16 am #

      I’m not a parent yet, but I can understand why so many of us put every dream we ever had on the back burner in order to put our children’s needs ahead of ours. But, is it possible that we delay our dreams not just because of our family obligations, but because we fear truly going for it?! Can we be both mother and butt-kicking dream chasers? For sure it would be challenging, but that’s what makes it even more satisfying when we succeed and what an example we would set for our children! Thank you so much for your comment, I’m really glad my words were able to spark something in you and I hope you go for it and succeed in fulfilling your dreams.

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